DEEPER DIVE: INTIMACY

The deeper dive for this lesson is going to involve you actually being intimate. You’ll be using all of the lessons you’ve learned up to this point. Do you need to review? Let’s do that.

• I Desire Discernment
  You now have a pretty clear understanding of what we mean when we talk about the difference between true desire and compensatory desire. And you’ve got a practice that helps you to be clear about the difference so that your vibration is always expressive of the true desire.

• II Integration
  Integrity is everything. It is your greatest social currency. It is the best antidote for healthy self esteem. It is not perfectionism. It is honoring the strive to be righteous, keep one’s word, and to empower ourselves with the ability to make amends, reparation, and reconciliation.

• III Humility
  The Zen Buddhist version of conceit says that there are three aspects of assertion… superiority, inferiority, and equality. All three are self-focused comparative thinking. The opposite of humility. Humility isn’t about diminishing yourself. It’s acknowledgement of your oneness with everything.

• IV Beginner’s Mind
  The student who shows up for class in order to show off how much they know, learns nothing. Show up curious and interested in what there is to be learned in every situation.

• V Balanced Negation
  Play like your life depends on winning, and simultaneously as if you are invincible and unattached to the outcome.

• VI Righteous Speech
  When we speak, write, think, we cast spells. We should be more responsible about what we say and why we say it, and less indulgent in emotional insobriety.

• VII Meaning Making
  It’s a natural part of our mental function to make inferences. But when we are tethered to certain inferences as if they are absolutes, we deprive ourselves of other options.